"Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage" ― Brené Brown
“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.”
― Brené Brown
First let’s be honest, I intended to send this out on Monday as our Monday Mantra but I needed to think on it, and think some more and maybe overthink. Hence the following confessions ;)
These words by Brene Brown really speak to me and convince me that the risks of opening a business in my home are worth it. This journey has felt vulnerable to me as I tend to be one that overthinks every decision I make. All you have to do is go out to dinner with me to know this is true. I mean if you give the waiter a few options and tell him/her to "surprise me", you may have a decision-making problem. Or maybe it’s not a problem, maybe extensively weighing the pros and cons and considering all possible outcomes is a strength. Hmmm, I can’t decide, ha! The bottom line is decisions are hard and overthinking is easy. So, it's safe to say that putting myself out there in the capacity of starting my own business and asking people into my home to pay me money for services I provide has left me a little uncomfortable along the way.
Why am I saying all this? Why on top of all those feelings am I putting my feelings of vulnerability (fear, worry, obsession) on greater display? And what does this have to do with you? The answer lies in how helpful yoga has been in my life and how passionately I want to share its benefits with others. With all that I've shared with you, I'm confident that starting Yoga Now was the step that I was meant to take. Feeling vulnerable seems worth it to me and maybe even courageous so that I can share something that may help others too. I wholeheartedly believe that through the process of yoga we get to know ourselves better and by that, I mean we get to know our deeper layers. We get to know ourselves independent of the jobs that we keep, the relationships that we hold and even the things that we do. We peel away the layers of overthinking, doubt, fear, guilt and can access our deepest, most innately wonderful selves where love, acceptance and compassion are at our core. We do this by temporarily setting all the outside stimulation (distractions) aside or at least silencing it for a while. We work on challenges on the mat through our physical postures and teach our bodies how to stay calm, at ease and connected to our breath while doing so. These challenges translate to the ones we experience off our mats and over time we become better at dealing with those as well. We become more comfortable with stillness, quietness and surrender. We allow ourselves the time and space to simply exist. We remind ourselves to accept what our bodies can give in that moment and replace our negative self-chatter with gratitude and love. We become stronger physically while establishing a more intimate relationship with our body and become stronger mentally and emotionally by learning how to let go.
I’ve shared with you my vulnerable feelings surrounding starting an in-home business and how my passion for sharing yoga convinced me that putting myself out there, exposing myself in a way that feels risky is an expression of love and authenticity. I hope that this analogy and the wise words from Brene Brown might stimulate some thoughts of what you are passionate about, what you believe in and how through vulnerability you can be courageous. Vulnerability can be subtle yet powerful.
Food for thought (ways to soften our hardened exteriors):
Vulnerability in our relationships: sharing your feelings with your spouse; showing your children that you have moments of weakness too; asking a friend for help
Vulnerability in our actions: putting yourself out there with the risk of failing to try something new or something you don’t feel very good at
Vulnerability in our opinions: listening without judgment to someone who you may not agree with; kindly sharing what you believe in
Vulnerability in our words: apologizing; complimenting; admitting that we don’t understand or need help
I believe that sometimes it's by giving in that we get. By surrendering, we conquer. By showing up and being vulnerable, we make strides that far outweigh the risks.
As always, I'd love for you to come share energy, breath and movement with me at Yoga Now. If not, I hope that you find a few moments today to just be, just breathe and remind yourself how amazing you are!
TRY THIS ON FOR SIZE: Warrior 1 with an Open Heart. I've been teaching this pose this week and I believe that sometimes the poses we put on our physical bodies help us process and express what lays on our hearts and our minds. Warrior 1 with a chest expansion is a pose that exposes you. Your heart is open, your shoulders are intensely stretching, your psoas (an emotional muscle) is lengthened. In this pose, we can express this vulnerability confidently as we ground down through strong legs and feet. We have confidence in our roots and work from the ground up. The strong roots allow us to unfold and open through our upper half; through our hearts and our minds. Working with this pose has given me the confidence to share this blog of my thoughts on vulnerability and courage and my inspiration for deciding to offer yoga from my home.